Do you find that when you speak to your partner about a sensitive issues, he gets defensive? Do you notice that you tend to finger point or be sarcastic? How do you speak about your feelings, thoughts and perceptions without blaming? This may seem hard to do, but it is possible.
One way to start is to set your goal; you want to be heard by your partner. Notice if you feel differently taking this stance. Do you feel less likely to attack? Do you use different words? Does your tone change?
It’s always a good idea to prepare yourself before speaking. Take some deep breaths and turn your attention inward. Tell yourself what your goal is and notice the shift inside of yourself. If you can access feelings and thoughts that you believe your partner can hear, then you are ready to speak. I encourage you to give it a try!
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